You can choose to be lonely or not. It is a choice.

“Nobody is coming to magically fix things. You have to do the same thing you did in your career and take action so you can be successful.”

Don't waste time becoming angry and trying to control the situation or wishing it turned out different.

Remember, when you are single, it doesn’t mean you need to feel ashamed. Whether you are, or are not, in a relationship doesn’t say anything about who you are as a person.

The holidays bring a lot of pressure to the single person. Finding a date for the office party, and just concern about being alone for the holidays can be emotional. The kiss at midnight on New Years, becomes a symbol of somehow being back on top, in control of your life and lovable. I was using those random nameless guys to build myself up and the moment never really matched my romantic expectations.

"I'm giving up! There is no one out there" As if this will attract someone to you right away since you have now stopped looking!

Now you might think its easy to find someone with all these singles living in one spot right? Well think again; one person described it to me this way... Imagine you are at a big mall with thousands of people there at one time, how many of those people do you think you would get to meet personally and how many would you actually want to date?

Prepare yourself for the next phase of your life. Try to move on without regrets and hatred - this will only keep you at a standstill.

Make the decision to move on and leave the past behind, no matter what it is or how “wronged” you felt you were.

Ask yourself .... am I paying too much attention to what I DON'T want? Another one that drives me crazy... There are no good men out there... where are all the men? or from the guys... Are there any NORMAL women out there? I can't find a good women

it's about being more comfortable being single... being “labeled” as SINGLE, and realizing its not that bad.

Being single shouldn't be a reason to feel blue however, and neither should Valentine's Day. Instead of letting this mostly commercially-fueled holiday drag you down, why not celebrate being single?

To go out alone comfortably, you need to put the stereotypes at the back of your mind. It does not mean that you are a loner, desperado or a loser. You are a liberated single person. It may look or sometimes feel awkward but prepare to go out and have fun just like you would have done if you had company.

No one wants to be alone. Best simple suggestion to help you feel a little better during this adjustment period try volunteering your time or donating to help those less fortunate.

What you think about ~ you bring about! FEELINGS then attached to your thoughts then fuel it. Let is go…any negative beliefs you may have, work everyday toward being Grateful for what IS going well in your life, and what you do have. Say YES to life and LIFE says YES to you!

*This below true story hopefully will bring new faith and inspiration to you all while searching

Millionaire Matchmaker, Patti has accomplished this fine art quite well. She likes to call it "POWER DATING" instead of Speed Dating, since the candidates are pre-screened.