*You always find someone when you're not looking

This morning I was searching and searching for my mouse pad.Spent a good 20 minutes or so, checking here...then checking there... huh! 

Where could it have disappeared to? I gave up the search, and opened my laptop.POP there it was, found it!On my keyboard hiding.It kind of reminded me of the cliche while dating “You always find something when you’re not looking.”When someone is frustrated with their love life search, people love to tell you... “You always find someone when you’re not looking.”

The idea is that relationships only come along when you’re so frustrated that you stop looking, like the universe is taking pity on you or something. And the “advice,” is then translated to just stop looking for a relationship.

This cliche is better translated to  “When you lose something, it’s always in the last place you look.”  Because really when you think about nothing is ever really "lost" its just in another place!

But getting back to the original “You always find someone when you’re not looking” I'll admit it does have some truth to it—as you’re more likely to find a relationship when you’re not spending 12 hours a day on match.com—

but it’s not because you’ve stopped looking.

The people who seem most attractive are those who seem happy, well-adjusted, confident, and, most important—busy. When someone seems like they have a full and exciting life, other people want to be part of it.Desperate is never pretty.As one man once said to me... I can smell desperate from a mile away.

When you “stop looking” (which we will translate as “stop looking desperate”), you’re sending these kinds of signals.  Your life seems so cool and interesting that you’re not going to drop everything to look for a boyfriend, and that’s precisely why guys are going to want to be yours.

So the trick isn’t to stop looking; it’s to make it seem as though you’re not looking   But instead to project a persona that seems too awesome to settle for just anyone, and to market your life as something that everyone should want.

This means not skipping the gym for a date with a guy you met casually at Star Bucks the other day

It means not showing up for singles events and have a bored or mad look on your face because prince charming didn't ride in that nightor making statements like " I'm giving up! There is no one one out there " As if this will attract someone to you right away since you have now stopped looking! 

It means building a life that’s totally fun and fulfilling without the partner, but when a partner does comes along, it means making sure he knows you will be a happy person with or without him.

PS of course you can come on out and have fun while you wait for "the one" at our events with 7 in Heaven, so much to do, something for everyone

See you there!

Warm Regards,

Gail Adams7 in Heaven Singles EventsOn your search for the one, we make being single fun!Web site- www.7-in-heaven.com631- 592-9804Personal Matchmaking Servicesby  Gail- www.HeavenlyMatch.netSingles, events today for singles, SPEED DATING, Speed-dating, current events for singles, Where to meet singles, How to meet singles, single women, single guys, singles long island, Single events on long island, single parties, where to meet long island singles, best speed dating on long island, Nassau county events for singles, Suffolk county events for singles, Queens Single Events, Best place to meet singles on long island, Long island events for singles, Activities for singles, Dance parties for singles, sports for singles, Single Dinner parties, Single Gourmet, Personal Matchmaking, Matchmaker, Long Island Matchmaker, Personal Matchmaking Services, Professional Matchmaker, Introduction services, Dating services. Best Dating services, where to find a matchmaker, personal dating services