* Pain is Inevitable ...Suffering is Optional
I felt the need to write this latest BLOG because I suddenly became aware of how many singles out there both men and women were so angry! It started on Facebook one day when I innocently posted a picture of some well behaving subdued young guys, in a nice restaurant, in a rather upscale town, just sitting at the bar in the restaurant and watching the game.I had NO JUDGMENT about them, just found it interesting that since I always hear from the ladies "where are all the guys" here my friend and I, were the only women in the place! So with humor, I posted the picture of the young guys on my FACEBOOK page saying "who says there are no guys on 
Long Island"WELL ...some 83 posts later...and the two worst offenders blocked... the dust finally settled. Bitter angry words, much judgment about these guys flew back and forth from one angry guy who seemed to hate women .. and one angry woman who was very vengeful about menThis BLOG is for you.....I have always admired people who have known defeat, known suffering, struggle, loss, yet have found their way out of the depths of their pain without blaming others. These people have an appreciation, and an understanding of life that this too will pass like the storm that moves across the sky.If you can understand this, you will find it's sometimes amazing how our greatest joy may have been born from our deepest pain. The highs and lows of love, are part of its reality ... part of its nature. Learn how to embrace it, learn to ride it out like the storm.You must find the strength, and wisdom and faith in knowing that suffering, blaming, staying in the "victim role" will never serve you but keep you stuck in the storm that never passes.There is a purpose for every person you meet. Instead of viewing and judging these people that have done you wrong, try your best to view people that come in and out of your life, as there for a purpose. Your job is to figure out WHY and WHAT they have taught you.Some are there to test you, they will use you, and betray you. Some are truly in this life solely for themselves and do not have the skills to think beyond themselves.Others will teach you, and bring out the best in you and be your genuine friend.Your quest is figure out if the person in your life is serving you for your best interest.Different people will teach us different things, but in every lesson, one must always remember that life is too short to hold on to anger and spite. Instead of choosing to suffer, perhaps that someone that came into your life, came to teach you something.But if you have someone in your life that is hateful and bitter and always pointing fingers at everyone else, be careful not to let this fool bring you to their level. Remove yourself from the situation, the drama, the vacuum that will suck you dry. If you hang out with these types too long, we start to become the people the energies we hang around with .
