The holidays bring a lot of pressure to the single person. Finding a date for the office party, and just concern about being alone for the holidays can be emotional. The kiss at midnight on New Years, becomes a symbol of somehow being back on top, in control of your life and lovable. I was using those random nameless guys to build myself up and the moment never really matched my romantic expectations.

Being single shouldn't be a reason to feel blue however, and neither should Valentine's Day. Instead of letting this mostly commercially-fueled holiday drag you down, why not celebrate being single?

Perhaps it would have been a good idea to leave "Kirk" with the impression you are interested. But its a fine line- between flirting and being too overbearing.

No answer is an answer, whether it is from a man or a woman.Women do tend to be less upfront, as we Venus people... don't like to hurt feelings so we ladies somehow think no answer is kinder.BUT MARTIANS prefer a straight up - no thanks answer.