Speed Date but LIVE in the Moment
Decide what your goals are.
Even though attending a speed-dating event is about meeting new people, everyone has their own idea about what that means to them. What are your goals for the evening?
Do you just aim to just get circulating again? Are you looking for something light like occasional dates or something serious and long term? Would you be open to a friendship centered around a common interest, like a sport or hobby? How far are you willing to travel for a relationship?
Thinking about this beforehand can help inspire topics of conversations and questions. And ultimately, it may help you to select your matches; those with whom you'd like to follow-up with.
Dress for success!
The event is designed to be fun and relaxed, but first impressions are important and will be based on how you look. And you only have one chance to make a first impression. Casual but always neat, clean clothing.
Guys...
Shirt, Tie & Jacket not necessary; but if you feel comfortable dressed up it won't hurt! Jeans OK as long as they are not work jeans guys...no crazy political statement tees, or no baseball hats please.
And for the Ladies...
Casual dresses and skirts are attractive and feminine if you feel comfortable wearing one, go right ahead. But a favorite pair of black leggings, or nice jeans with a nice top works too. Think sexy but not too over the top seductive works best.
Unique, interesting jewelry or accessories can be a great conversation starter too!
Interesting information about COLORS...
According to the scientists, most attractive and stimulating color for a woman to wear is RED, which actually increases blood flow. (And mimics attraction.) AND according to those studies ... women are attracted to men wearing the color BLUE. And why wouldn't we be ? Guys who frequently wear blue are "stable, faithful and always there." The "blue guy" is a fabulous candidate for a long-term relationship --- someone who's dependable, monogamous and can match his own clothes.
(Now this is a plus, ladies!)
Do be positive.
Go to the event with a positive attitude and keep your mind open.
It's pretty exciting to attend a speed-dating event. Everyone at the event is focusing all his or her energy on meeting a special someone. You're all pulling in the same direction! What could be more positive than that? Remember, be become what we think. Positive thinking brings to you positive results. "Negative thinking" brings to you negative results and negative life experiences.
Is your glass 1/2 full or 1/2 empty?
Try to be patient.
Expect the first few rounds of mini-dates to be a little awkward. This is a new experience for most participants. In fact, usually about 25% or more of the crowd will be first-timers! Have patience with yourself and those with whom you're seated with.
Be accepting of chemistry.
Keep your mind open. Compared to meeting people over the internet, one of the real advantages speed dating and singles events offer is the ability to meet live and in person. Sometimes real instant chemistry does happen. So, if it happens to you, don't be blind-sided. Recognize it, welcome it, and flirt a little...(Then dig a little deeper to see what else there is). But do keep your expectations realistic. Try not to run too far ahead of yourself. Maybe one thing to remember is to end with a smile. After all...isn’t spreading happiness and good vibes a process of chemistry as well?
Focus on the opportunity.
No answering cell phones at the tables is the respectful thing to do. Turn the ringer off.
You each only have a few moments together. Make the most of it! As you begin each round of mini-dates, remember to stay focused. Don't dwell on how things went in the last dating round or whom you'll pair with next. You can't change the past, and it's best not to live too far into the future. You can only impact the present moment. So give the person opposite you your respect and attention.
Learning to listen and be interested in the other person in front of you is vital if you’re to have a strong connection. Save any effort to "catch up or regroup" with friends after the event is over.
Give yourself credit.
You've arrived at the speed-dating or singles event. As you look around the room you begin to wonder if you have anything in common with your fellow daters. Take a deep breath and find comfort in the knowledge that your goals, are very much like everyone else that has attended for the event. By your very presence at this event, each of you is doing something positive about your desire to expand your social contacts, meet new friends and open yourself to new possibilities.
